She'll make a promise and I'll give her away.
Standing in the bride-room just staring at her.
She asked me what I'm thinking and I said "I'm not
sure-I just feel like I'm losing my baby girl."
She leaned over...gave me butterfly kisses with her mama there,
Sticking little white flowers all up in her hair
"Walk my down the aisle, Daddy-it's just about time."
"Does my wedding gown look pretty, Daddy? Daddy, don't cry!"
Bob Carlisle- Butterfly kisses
One day, I will be the one walking down the aisle. I will get to dress all up in a frilly white dress, get my hair and nails done, I will be the princess of the night. We will say “I do” and dance the night away with hundreds of people watching. It’s every girls dream. But for myself as well as many others, one thing will be missing, the father for the father daughter dance.
When I was just nine years old my father took his own life. Yes it was hard, feeling my mom’s warm, salty tears on my shoulder as she tried to explain, and I in return trying to stay strong for her. Was this really happening? Will I never again get to see my daddy, to go fishing with him at the pond just down the street? It slowly sunk in and though there was a part of my life missing, I began welcoming in the new life that I was going to begin. At a young age, I was put through a lot, now I’m almost 20 and though I’m not in any kind of relationship at the moment, what happens when that day comes? Who will be the one to walk me down the waiting aisle? Who will dance with me that last dance where the father is supposed to let his little girl go off and start her own life? I am so confused, but I’m only one of many young women that have to deal with this scenario.
I believe that every woman should get that one dance, the father-daughter dance. When you get married it’s suppose to be a happy time, family and friends come to celebrate the life that was and will follow. But what about that short period of time when you are waiting at the opposite end of the aisle from the love of your life? Who will be the one to walk me down that aisle, and after that the now dreaded father-daughter dance? The decisions are almost overwhelming. But then I think of all the people that have raised me. Who has been there the most? Who has comforted me when I was down? This will be the person I hope to fill that empty spot.
For all women that have lost their fathers one way or the other, this can be quite a challenge. But I think I have a pretty good idea of who that person will be for me. Hopefully each young woman who has found her true love will have a chance to follow that dream she once had as a little girl: to have that one special person walk her down the aisle and dance that last dance. This I believe.
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